Perhaps this is the most important question we will receive from our children and grandchildren: “How do I know he (or her) is one? ”

The Bible - Our Excellent Guide - has answers.

In Genesis 24, Abraham sent his servant Eliezer to find his wife for his son Isaac.

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His only instructions? Go to Haran, Abraham used to "make the soul." (See the video at the top of this article.)

This is a culture that is open to God. That is the first characteristic. Find a spouse in a good place.

Eliezer arrives and sees Rebecca. She "sees fairly" - this is the second feature.

Then he watched her draw not only water for him, but also for all his camels. That's the 3rd feature: generosity.

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Eliezer decided on these three characteristics, and there were only three characteristics, she was one.

Rebecca, in turn, was only told two things about Isaac.

"The Pentateuch gives us an inspiring order: 'Isaac married her. She became his wife. He loved her.'"

He is rich, which means he can offer. He loves God, which means he has a range of values.

She agreed to marry him.

Then the Pentateuch gives us an inspiring order: “Isaac married her. She became his wife. He loved her.”

Isaac and Rebecca have the best marriages in the Bible, and their marital happiness attitude is worth our reflection.

Identify some basic characteristics. marry. Become a spouse through constant dedication. Then Love will follow and continue to grow.

“We don’t give to those we love; we love those we give.”

Hebrew supports this. The root of Ahava - love is Hafmeaning "giving".

Those of us who like and even observe long-term, happy and loving relationships know why: we do not give to those we love; we love those we give to us.

We won't "fall in love". We cultivate it.

Modern culture is exactly the opposite.

For example, waiting for 30 years to get married and have children, for example, the risk of infertility in men and women increases the range.

Casual dating often leads to casual sex, which is so unsatisfactory that we now prefer video games (especially new versions) over sex in what sociologists call “sexual recession.”

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Repeated rejection can lead to long-term emotional wear that the body recognizes as body pain.

In the model cited earlier, people have "tested" compatibility for years. A 2016 Barna study found that 84% of couples who lived together before marriage did this to check for compatibility.

However, according to the Family Research Institute, the first reason for divorce? "Basically incompatible."

The Bible provides existing formulas when it comes to advice for our children and grandchildren on happy marriage.

Throw away the list of 100 items.

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It doesn't matter that the young woman prefers warmer holidays than colder holidays.

It doesn't matter if young people's friends are very interesting.

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If the couple had a foundation of love that could be found in two or three core traits, they might consider getting these church bells ready to ring - because they were ready for a wonderful marriage.

Mark Gerson's new book is “God is right: How modern social science proves the law is true,” Published by Benbella Books and published by Simon & Schuster (June 2025). This article is part of the only series included in Fox News Digital.