Pakistani mother, Indian son: after attack on Gashmir, they cannot live together | India - Pakistani subdistrict

India's Attari-Wagah border crossing point - It's time to say goodbye. Saira stood in the scorching sun, wearing a black clean net Bulka (Saira) holding her husband Farhan's hand tightly, trying to stay a few pieces at the main border checkpoint between India and Pakistan.

Named after the Attari Village and Wagah cross the border on the Indian side, this crossing has been one of the few portals for people to travel between neighbors for years. However, the Attari-Wagah border is now the latest place for India and Pakistan to divide its citizens, including thousands of families, some Indians and others.

Saira and Farhan spent the night from New Delhi, their nine-month-old boy Azlan hid on his mother's knees after India ordered almost all Pakistani citizens to fatally attack Indian-born Parhalgam in Pahalgam, Indiana, by Tuesday in Indiana, for the charge of Narendra Modi Modi Modi Modi Modi Groummits in Indiana-Administer. Islamabad denied the allegation.

Like other couples in Karachi, they fell in love with Farhan in New Delhi on Facebook three years ago. They got married and Sera moved to New Delhi.

But when Saira and Farhan looked at each other on Tuesday, their eyes were wet and a border guard rushed to move on. At checkpoints with barbed lines and barricades, their only identities are defined by the color of the passport: the green of Sera and the blue of Farhan.

“We will meet soon,” Fahan told Seyla, who kissed the baby’s son on the cheek, preparing for Seyla and Azran to cross the border. "Insha Allah, soon. I will pray for both of you."

But then a guard stepped forward and pointed at Azran's passport. That's blue. "Not a baby, ma'am." He told Sera when she reached her son on her left arm.

Before they fully understand what was going on, the couple had separated: Saira returned to Karachi; Farhan and their breastfeeding child Azlan went to New Delhi.

Attari-Wagah border crossing seen from the Indian side on April 29, 2025 (Yashraj Sharma/Al Jazeera)
Attari-Wagah border crossing seen from the Indian side on April 29, 2025 (Yashraj Sharma/Al Jazeera)

"Life State of Exiled"

On April 22, armed personnel shot and killed 26 civilians in the resort town of Pahalgam, mainly tourists. Since then, these countries have been on the edge. India blames Pakistan on Pakistan. Islamabad rejected the allegation and called for a "neutral investigation."

Neighbors of nuclear weapons exchanged gunfire along the disputed border for six consecutive days. India has suspended its participation in the Indian Water Treaty (IWT), a key water-sharing agreement. Pakistan threatens to step out of other bilateral agreements. Both countries have pruned diplomatic missions and, in fact, expelled most of each other's citizens. Now, the Atari-Waga border is closed for action or trade.

So far, an estimated 750 Pakistani passport holders have crossed the border since April 22, while approximately 1,000 Indians have returned from the other side. Those affected include a Pakistani woman who visited her mother's home twenty years later, and the two sisters who attended their wedding in India next week had to go back without having to attend events, while older Pakistani patients with fatal illnesses they hope to receive treatment in India.

There is also Haleema Begum, 48, who traveled two days from Odisha on the east coast, covering more than 2,000 kilometers (about 1,250 miles) to the border crossing.

Haleema left Karachi's home when she got married in Odisha. 25 years ago. She said life was mostly good before a policeman issued a notice from the Indian government’s “leave India”.

"I'm scared. I told them I'm not just here, I'm getting married in India," she said. She sat in a taxi near the border, which was filled with dozens of bags. "Did the (Indian) government pull my life up and push me away?" Haleema sighed. She said the country was also her home after spending a quarter of a century in India.

Haleema is accompanied by her two sons, Musaib Ahmed, 22, and Zubair Ahmed, 16. Her husband died eight years ago. The children decided that Zubail would cross-check her with his mother.

But both children have blue passports, which is different from the mother's green ones. They begged the border troops to defend. Nothing is available. “She has never traveled alone and I don’t know how she will do that,” Musaib said, referring to Haleema’s upcoming 1,200km journey to Karachi.

Once she arrived in Karachi, Haleema had no home to go.

"My parents died a long time ago," she said, adding, "I have 1,000 questions in my mind." "No answer. I'm just praying for the safety of my children. We'll be reunited soon."

Suchitra Vijayan, author of Midnight Border, is a 2022 book that follows people splitting on the overnight border saying: “The Indian subcontinent is “signed by many heartbreaking stories.”

Vijayan noted that since the Indian division of Britain India, Muslim women from India or Pakistan who married another country and moved there were the most affected women. This dilemma is permanent, she said, especially when they are forced to return. "You're stuck in a place that is no longer your home - or it's a home you don't know. Exile becomes your life state."

She said that over the past few decades, many families have been split by India-Pakistan tensions and, like Sera and Fahan, they will be able to reunite as soon as possible. Often, this is not how it actually works for them.

“One of the most painful things you’ll listen to over and over again is that a lot of people think they’re just leaving for the time being,” she said.

A Kashmir woman sends out a deportation notice in front of a taxi.
A Kashmiris woman was accompanied by a guard on April 29, 2025 to her deportation notice (Yashraj Sharma/Al Jazeera)

"Only mothers know the pain"

Back at the Attari-Wagah border, Farhan pretends that his son's feeding bottle is an airplane, hoping to distract his son. "He doesn't like the bottle; he knows the mother's touch," Farhan's sister Nooreen said, as the boy was frustrated. Nooreen and other members of the family joined the couple and Azlan at the border.

"Two big powers and big powers are fighting, and our innocent children are trapped. Damn it." "Only mothers know the pain of leaving nine months old."

Then, suddenly, Fahan's eyes illuminated when he heard a guard shouting his name. Fahan is wearing a navy blue cotton T-shirt and sprinting with Azran's blue passport in his hand. "In the end, they have mercy on our family." Fahan ran hurriedly, smiling timidly on his face - he thought the guard had Azlan agree to cross with his mother.

But he came back an hour later, his eyes burst into tears, his son was still in his arms with the heat.

"She lost consciousness when she was about to cross the border. The officer told me that she would not stop crying (when she regained consciousness)."

To calm her down, the Indian Guard promoted the last meeting between her husband and son Saira.

One incredible Farhan noted that life was different before the orders that forced Saira to leave the country. Farhan is an electrician in the Indian capital for centuries and is known as Old Delhi. Nooreen said Saira has a bachelor’s degree in art from Karachi, while Farhan is “a couple that cannot be separated”.

Since Saira got married and came to New Delhi, Farhan said: “My life, my world, everything has changed.”

Now, it changed again in a way he never imagined. Farhan's mother, Ayesha Begum, also stared at her son despite a broken leg while playing with Azlan's arms.

"Ye Sab Pyaar Ke Maare Hai (these are victims of love)" she said.

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