Real success, failing to fail
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BBetween me I have made a lot of public lectures and a lecture on happiness and science, and I have been looking for clearer and fluent methods. For this reason, I often talk in two languages. These languages are not my own language, but those languages I learned from adults: Spanish and Catalonian.
Although I can use these languages to make ordinary dialogues (even when I can speak frequently at home), I have a foreign accent that cannot express my subtle differences or scientific depth in English. Therefore, letting yourself a formal speech is a uncomfortable experience. However, every time I use these languages to make a book journey, I will better satisfy language challenges. I found out that this exercise improved my public speech EnglishEssence
This is a specific example, which shows that the fact is a wider fact: doing bad things can make you better good at things you are good at, and may make you good at new things. Understanding this kind of dynamics can make you gain advantage in your outstanding field and generally enhance your life. In order to be good at your work, please seize a chance.
Trye However, short things are not interesting. Skiing after adulthood, when you fall over and over again, you will definitely feel frustrated. The reason we hate the failure of bad things is because when suppressing or preventing target -oriented activities (due to external forces or our own lack of ability), this will stimulate our back to bring back the cortex. This is part of the circuit of brain pain. Essence When we experience social rejection, this is the influence of the same area.
However, this kind of mental pain does have the benefits of evolution-created a successful motivation, even if it is not in other activities at hand. In the recent research on baseball players, skilled pitcher (usually poor hitter) gives a strike exercise. Scholars found that their sense of inferiority and frustration in the ball made them more driven to improve their pitching.
This motivation effect can also be detected in business activities. As a group of psychologists reported in 2018, when the employees were relatively incompetent in a task, they tended to inspire them to show more capabilities for their already better things. Maybe you can be related to this discovery when it is promoted outside the comfort area at work, and you find that the conventional work after discovering has greater motivation.
The mental pain of failure itself will also inspire you to become better in activities that lack proficiency. If you can re -constitute an unfavorable experience as an indicator of personal growth. This was discovered by researchers during the on -site experiment at the impromptu club in 2022. Instructions of a group of amateur improvisational performers are positive Find Awkward feeling. Scholars have found that the first group is more involved in practice than improvisation performers who have not given this instruction. They did not consider discomfort to avoid discomfort, but regarded it as the core of the process and tilted.
Another useful method that makes failure as a source of progress is that psychologists call it “action to reflect”. The reflection of reflection failure is widely considered to be a waste of time, because the reflection of this type focuses on self -worth and failure to one person. Action reflection is different: it is for mission, involving exact mistakes made by replaying a person, and how to correct them in the future. Scholars have shown that in this intentional correction method, improper thinking through what you do will lead to learning and improvement, not frustration and trouble.
TStudy Obviously, although we hate failure, doing so may be good for learning new skills and mastering old skills. This has an impact on how to improve ordinary life.
Take one of the most common sources of emotional pain as an example: rejecting in finding romantic relations. First of all, we must realize that there is no risk of failure and no failure, and determined to take risks. However, please remember that if rejection occurs, it is almost certain that in the event of danger, it will bring the motivation to comfort other successful relationships, such as a relationship with family and friends, which is better in those aspects.
Once you enter the dating market, please do not try to avoid nervousness. On the contrary, like improvisation, you can use your anxiety as the core part of learning and improvement. This will make you More rest assured When you stop fighting with emotions such as fear and anxiety, you will allocate value to the discomfort itself. Then, after the date failed, the personal blame was put aside, but instead reflected through forensic analysis, and clarified how to become better at each stage of the date. This process will greatly improve the experience and improve the possibility of success over time.
You can make full use of failure in many other areas of life, or at least poor performance. If you are a student, please far exceed your courses in your skills and interests, and you may improve your knowledge to know that you can improve your efforts to deal with very novel challenges. Do like. Drunk with it and analyze the mistakes you make-you can almost find that you do better on the theme of the preferred theme.
Employers can also apply these principles. I like the “75/25 Rules”. According to this rule, employees spend three -quarters of their time on allocating tasks, and one -quarter time is outside of the region. When people are full of novelty and difficulties, this is the short-term cost of friction-boss should not be careful not to make the situation worse because of punitive or too criticism. But I have seen the long -term benefits of better motivation in the core task, and the better flow of information flow and new skills in different activities in the enterprise.
THe supports the principle of failure It can even be applied to happiness itself. No one is unwilling to be unhappy. However, the attractive source of misfortune may be very beneficial to entering life. Determine not to be afraid of fear, anger or sadness. After all, they are normal and natural parts. Interchange with them publicly, although uncomfortable, this will improve your skills. Moreover, if you allow them, they will help you taste more fun of life.
Regarding the upcoming speech, I found that there is an ancient expression in Catalonian, to point out that the risk of failure will lead to the prospect of success: No, you don't, you don't, there is no piscaEssence It can be translated as “people who do not adventure do not capture fish”, but the same English idiom may be: no adventure, nothing can be obtained. Nevertheless, the Catalonians make me even more poetic. look? Some things are got.